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Meeting prospective partners doesn’t only happen in bars and clubs. Most people, when told they can meet new people whilst getting their daily latte, buying fruit and veg or on a trip to the library to get your holiday reads would recoil with visions of creepy pick up lines and awkward street encounters.
What if I told you there is a way to spark conversations with strangers in a non-creepy way? Would you take those earphones out, look up and notice the opportunities for meaningful and interesting conversations you could be having today? Well... here’s how you do it!
I asked some of the world's top dating experts just how to spark conversations with strangers in ways that really work.
“Do you think it pays to spend twice as much on organic spinach?” Rosalind Sedacca, Child-Centered Divorce
“Have any tips on the best way to pick a pineapple?” Rebekah Beneteau, Pleasure Evolution
“What would you serve that cheese with?” then “How did you decide on that?” Dr. Colleen Mullen, Coaching Through Chaos
“Do you know what a Persian Melon tastes like? I tried Googling it but didn't find an answer that was clear for me.” Rosalind Sedacca, Child-Centered Divorce
“I use that detergent too, and I love the smell of it.” Dawn Michael, The Happy Spouse
“What are some of the challenges you've been up against when de-boning that fish?” Dr. Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills child, parenting, and relationship psychotherapist, author, The Self-Aware Parent, and co-star, Sex Box, WE tv.
“Tell me how you've been cooking that banana squash.” Dr. Fran Walfish
“Is it worth the cost of getting Netflix? I've heard good things about their original shows; have you?” Rosalind Sedacca, Child-Centered Divorce
“I don’t suppose you know the difference between these _insert product types here_?”
“I don't know about you - I swore I would never say this... but between 300 jelly choices, and 5,000 Netflix choices, I really miss 1995 when there was only grape or strawberry, and only eight channels on a TV.” Kendra Davies, Stellar Life Coaching
“What kind of dog is that?” Rebekah Beneteau, Pleasure Evolution
“Do you know of any good running routes?”
“How did you decide on a _insert breed here_?” Dr. Colleen Mullen, Coaching Through Chaos
“Are there any nice walking tracks around here?”
“What’s the last book you read that left an impression on you?” Dr. Colleen Mullen, Coaching Through Chaos
“I’ve always thought about picking up a book by _insert Author here_ but then put it back on the shelf, why I should try this author?” Rebecca Perkins, Author of Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife
Do you know where the non-fiction books are located? Cheryl Lazarus, Founder of Zengalove
“This is my first time here, what is their best coffee?” Nicole Richardson, Nicole Richardson Counseling
Do you know where I could find a good place to eat nearby. Cheryl Lazarus, Founder of Zengalove
“Have you ever tried a particular blend or flavor.” Tyler Turk, Crated with Love
Detach from the outcome. The greatest way to demonstrate self-confidence is to not be attached to the outcome of the interaction. Whether it clicks or they move on - be ok either way. Kendra Davies, Stellar Life Coaching
When starting a conversation, don’t be afraid to fail and don’t expect every person to seem interested. You aren’t looking for everyone, you are looking for the one. You are simply having a conversation with that person and letting a connection build naturally. Tyler Turk, Crated with Love
Smile! Seems simple, but believe me, there is an art to it. The trick is to use that smile as an icebreaker. If you and the person you want to talk to lock eyes, give them a kind, genuine smile and hold it for just a half second longer than normal. This step is crucial! You don’t want to freak them out with a super long smile, you simply want them to think twice about the smile. In their minds it could be as simple as, “that was long smile”. Either way, what you are doing is separating yourself from everything else around that person. So when you go up to talk to that person, you will have already had a personal moment. In some respects, you have already met, only with your eyes. Starting a conversation then will be much easier. Tyler Turk, Crated with Love
If the response is curt or brief, it can indicate the person is not available. If it's nice and polite, it can indicate they are open. From a woman, the next step is to smile warming, look into his eyes, then compliment him for his knowledge. For a man, the next step is to say, thank you, your husband is a lucky man. If she says, thank you move on. If she says, she's not married, then the game is on. Dawn Maslar, Biologist and Writer in the science of love
Starting a conversation with someone you don’t know can be very uncomfortable. Being talked to by someone you don’t know can be even more uncomfortable. Because of this, you want to ensure that you offer the safest and most relaxed scenario. For example, if you are in the supermarket, avoid dark aisles in the back of the store where no one goes. Seems like common sense, right? Even so, the emotion of love can make us think irrationally at times, so it’s important that you are aware of your surroundings. Tyler Turk, Crated with Love
At the supermarket - and this happened to a friend in France - ask what they’re planning to cook with the vegetables they’ve just picked up - yes it takes courage but my friend went out on a couple of dates with exactly that line! Rebecca Perkins, Author of Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife
At the park, this is easy if you’re dog walking! You can talk about the dogs. One of my best friends and I met via our dogs, not a romantic relationship but a lifelong one for sure. Rebecca Perkins, Author of Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife
I was looking through some steaks and a lady asked me if I knew how to grill a really good steak. I said yes and after a few back and forth questions and answers she said, "I have a better idea, how about I buy the steaks and you come over and teach me." I said yes, we dated for 5 months. Phillip Petree, Author, The Man Puzzle
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